Oh Leo! Am I your "Girlfriend" or are you still "Single" to everyone else?
Leo and I have been having an intense and intimate relationship; However, it seems like he has not taken the initiative to claim me as his girlfriend or determined us as an official pairing...as far as all of our close friends know - we have been dating and things have been going very well. Nothing more. He told his close friends and I told mine pretty much the same thing: "I like him/her a lot. Things seem to be going really well."
Of course, they don't know the details about him staying over almost every night and the current exchange of I love you's. All personal details in my opinion and should be kept between he and I. He agrees intimacies should be kept private. I respect him so I don't divulge any details of our intimate relationship with even my best friends. A first for me. Heh.
Oops!
So anyway; here is the dilemma:
He doesn't seem to want to establish or claim me as something permanent in his life despite all of the things he says to me.
Such as (progressive as you go down):
"I am falling in love with you."
"I am in love with you."
"I want you to go with me when I move."
"I would love to live with you and make a home with you."
"I could see myself growing old with you. I've never said that to anyone else."
All these things he said himself and did not require any prodding from me. He is always planning for our future when he talks to me.
However, he A) Never calls me his girlfriend. B) Denied my request on Facebook to add him as "In Relationship" with me. C) Doesn't talk to me hardly at all when we're not together.
I waited to take such moves until the signs were clear and now...it seems like Leo is trying to either hide something from someone else or there is something else going on.
I know his ex-girlfriend has been bugging him about me. I guess she looked at my pictures on Facebook and freaked out on him. She's engaged and moved on long before my Leo left her. Which of course broke his heart.
Thoughts? Is he just using me for intimate encounters and just making me feel secure by telling me all of these things? Or is this just how Leos are?
Of course, they don't know the details about him staying over almost every night and the current exchange of I love you's. All personal details in my opinion and should be kept between he and I. He agrees intimacies should be kept private. I respect him so I don't divulge any details of our intimate relationship with even my best friends. A first for me. Heh.
Oops!
So anyway; here is the dilemma:
He doesn't seem to want to establish or claim me as something permanent in his life despite all of the things he says to me.
Such as (progressive as you go down):
"I am falling in love with you."
"I am in love with you."
"I want you to go with me when I move."
"I would love to live with you and make a home with you."
"I could see myself growing old with you. I've never said that to anyone else."
All these things he said himself and did not require any prodding from me. He is always planning for our future when he talks to me.
However, he A) Never calls me his girlfriend. B) Denied my request on Facebook to add him as "In Relationship" with me. C) Doesn't talk to me hardly at all when we're not together.
I waited to take such moves until the signs were clear and now...it seems like Leo is trying to either hide something from someone else or there is something else going on.
I know his ex-girlfriend has been bugging him about me. I guess she looked at my pictures on Facebook and freaked out on him. She's engaged and moved on long before my Leo left her. Which of course broke his heart.
Thoughts? Is he just using me for intimate encounters and just making me feel secure by telling me all of these things? Or is this just how Leos are?
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Permalink Reply by sugarbomb on -
It's a guy thing to not change his status to "in a relationship" I had the same problem with my virgo. When I saw he didn't change his and I had changed mine. I had felt embarassed. But the later on we talked and he said he wasn't sure. Because we never had the "we are the exclusive" talk. I was like but you told your dad I was your girlfriend. And he started to dance around it. Anyways I just had to play it cool, like oh....
I think he could have been busy with work and facebook is the last thig he thinks about. But did he really deny or forget? Yah if ex gfs are on facebook...ermmm....tough call.
From the eyes of a leo snake, right now I don't feel like rushing into anything. I had to end it with my other leo snake guy because he wanted me more than I wanted him. Now I'm kind of in a blah, why did I end it with him cuz I have nothing to do mood. And I am thinking of the ex.
Anyways you should be the one pulling away as well. Too much too fast. Give it some space.
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Permalink Reply by Debre Heassly on -
From the eyes of a leo snake. lol
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Permalink Reply by Megan Whitney on -
I don't like changing my Facebook status myself because it's always filled with drama. But he does sound like a player. What he says doesn't match up with what he does and that doesn't make him trustworthy.
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Permalink Reply by LaDiablaCancer on -
However, he A) Never calls me his girlfriend. B) Denied my request on Facebook to add him as "In Relationship" with me. C) Doesn't talk to me hardly at all when we're not together.
No. you are not his g/f. For as much as you want the guy to step up and say you are, he just isn't. Have a talk with him about it, but I get the sense that he's not wanting a commitment. If he doesn't want commitment, then move on.
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Permalink Reply by Argentille on -
His ex-girlfriend is not a threat to me. She is living in a completely different state. Honestly, I don't think she has a competitive streak and I don't believe she is trying to win him back. She's just jealous and most ex-girlfriends get that way when they think the guy she left has finally found something other than her. It's weird and messed up but I understand it. I was that way when my ex-fiance asked me for advice about another girl. I got pissed. Then got over it shortly. I wasn't happy with my currently relationship at that time and apparently neither is she.
I don't think he's playing me...physically at least. He always wants to come over to see me. I think I need to give him an ample amount of space because we see each other EVERY DAY.
He likes to talk about his exes a lot and I'm not sure if this is a way to test if I am jealous or not. I shrug it off and don't care because I've seen both of his exes and heard stories about them that I don't think he would ever go back to them.
I'm afraid this Leo will break my heart. Because already...I'm in love with him. I think I was long before we started dating. I'd dream about him. We'd always talk at work and joke around. Play video games together. Hung out as friends.
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Permalink Reply by sugarbomb on
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Give it a few days of being cool with it. When were in love everything gets amplified. Handle it with kid gloves. I'm sure he'll change his status soon. He's in his thinking phase. Try not to scare him. LOL.
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Permalink Reply by Argentille on
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I've completely withdrawn. Canceled the status and have gone back to 'Single' as he is. We'll see how that mulls over for him.
His phone will be silent of me today. He can make the next move. I'm not budging. (This is where my Taurus really kicks in) I can wait, for a long time. If I get no response to my attempts or anything in the next month from him. I'm moving on.
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Permalink Reply by bijou on -
There's no reason to go passive aggressive over it. Why are you afraid to tell him how you feel?
I thought Leo's liked directness?
Just call him up and ask him what the deal is. Don't accuse. Don't be mad or hurt or judgmental.
Just ASK.
If you want an answer, ask HIM, not this forum.
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Permalink Reply by Evette on -
Listen:
I'm a Leo but a Leo woman. I'm speaking from a Leo's perspective. He does care for ;you a great deal. We Leo's have a tendancy to show alot of action without advertising to the public all of the time. We are very reluctant at times to tell our affiars about what we are doing. We have very select people that we talk to. This man loves you and he feels that you should see it in action and not words all of the time. We Leo's do that at times. As far asnot changing his status on facebook, he did that to cut down on confusion and drama. He really does not want anybody to know that much detail about him. Leo's sometimes put people on a need to know basis. When you see it, then you know it. If the x-girlfriend broke his heart and if he still have some of the slightest feelings for her, then sort of look out because he may be comtiplating on should he leave you and go back to her. That does not mean he is sleeping with her. We Leo's have a tendancy to weigh out situations and think of how we will fair off in the long run. don't get to ansy and excited right now. You definately has his interest at heart though. It takes alot to pull us Leo's in but once you got us, we are very loyal people. A tip to you, sex alone does not get us hooked. You have go to have yourself together emotinaly and have confidence in yourself and set goals and stick to them. That is what really attract Leo's. Most of us Leo's set the standards high. Good luck to you dear.
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Permalink Reply by Lioness 8 on -
I have to agree with what Evette said. Especially about the privacy thing... I keep my self VERY private. My personal situation is a little different. I have been separated from my husband for 2 years and my FB still says married... LOL Why???? Well only a "FEW" select friends know about the separation, I dont want people looking me up and asking me Why? What Happen? Blah Blah Blah mind your own damn business. This has been a problem with some guys, but oh well Im keeping it the way it is.. UNTIL Im ready to change it and let the world know.
As for him talking to you about ex's seems like he's opening up to you (depending on what he's saying) which is a REALLY big deal for Leo's.. Its really not easy to open up to people.... Once you've been hurt badly by another you will never be the same and the shell will be even harder to get through....
Go with the flow, if your not having problems, Whats the problem? If you really need an answer about where you stand then just ask him between you and him... Only if he's not ready he may not answer it yet and may avoid the question.
Best of Luck!
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