SHOULD I STAY IN LOVE WITH THIS AQUARIUS MAN....
I don't even know if I will get a response to this but I am a sun taurus woman and just got out of a unexpectedly "short" relationship with a sun aquarius man. My story is somewhat long but to make it short...the aqua knew I wasn't interested in him at first because of the cold shoulder I gave him repeatedly (mostly because of past relationship issues). I didn't want anything to do with him especially since he planned on moving out of state. I offered to be a friend to him because long distance usually don't work...but oh no...he was sooo convinced he'd prove me wrong and assured me he would do all he could to make it work...somehow with his constant pursuing, reassurance with actions that matched his words, and intelligence...I opened up and let him in and my guard dropped. He was soooo infatuated so in love and even said he loved me. Told all his friends he found the one...his family...took me over to meet his parents...the whole nine. He would call so many times throughout the day or beg to see me...and when we did see each other it was 1st class all the way. He is by far the most amazing man I have ever met. Keep in mind...he was all of that when he was home. As soon as he left town not even a full two weeks later...all of that came to a screeching hault after he accused me of having horrible communication with him (mind you he is the one who became distant in communication while he was already HUNDREDS of miles away). Why go through all of that effort to break my guard down and tell the world you love me just to become a coldhearted distant short with words baffoon. He promised he wouldn't hurt me knowing what I've been through. I don't get it! He could of became an ass back home! He had the nerve to say to me "I wish things were different between us, I do love you and I'll c u around, maybe it might be different", and I may get a phone call or text from him every let's say 2-3 days. What am I suppose to do with that? He is VERY STUBBORN, is ALWAYS right even when he KNOWS for a fact he's wrong. The taurus I am, I can be just as stubborn so talkin to him and he talkin to me was like 2 bricks facing each other. I'm willing to compromise but mr aqua wouldn't compromise if it saved his life. If I mention anything emotional even now, NO RESPONSE..DEAD SILENCE..NADA! Was it all MIND GAMES? I'm so confused and would appreciate some input. He was so perfect and attentive to my needs and it all changed the moment he left and no doubt probably ran into temptation. What we had was what I and everyone who knew us thought was the perfect relationship. We were super compatible...I mean extremely compatible. How can he just walk away from that and appear to not be lookin back? 2 bad for me I now have to try to get over this otherwise perfect gentleman that entered n2 my life and I will but is he worth sticking around for... help please
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Permalink Reply by ScorpioNights on -
Move on. I've been in the Aquarian hurricane, too. He's fixed, so there's little chance of changing his mind. I'm going to get a rep as an Aqua-basher, but let me just say that trying to persuade him with emotions won't work. It's very likely he just doesn't understand what an emotional toll his actions are taking on you.
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Permalink Reply by Angeline Elise on -
He really loves you but he is taking his space...and it seems he's taking more. It's normal for Aqua to "shut down" emotionally...... it happens so fast and so cold you wonder if it was ever real...don't worry it was!!
My advice is to leave him. Leave him alone, he may need the pursuit of "getting you" all over again...if not it sounds like the ship may be leaving the dock, trying to make him do anything or feel anything can turn disastrous.
You sound like an amazing woman, you don't need anyone who is going to hurt you.
You are in all my positive thoughts for resolution,
a.
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Permalink Reply by ~Sweet~ on -
I really appreciate u guys taking the time to read my post...thank u. As for Mr. Aqua, it hurts and I'll get over it I'm sure... it was weird because he got in contact with me today after I told him to F*** off the night before and I let him know just exactly where he could kiss it. I woke up with the attitude today saying to myself 'he is the past now keep it movin girl'. Wouldn't ya know out of nowhere he started with the subtle flirting and yadayada about missing me and the good times...THEN out comes "You want to try it again?" EXCUSE ME!! Oh brother lol... guys I love roller coasters but not of this kind...
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Permalink Reply by TaurusGeminiMoon on -
Run don't walk the opposite way. I've been posting for months about my Aquarius boyfriend and he's gone, totally disappeared in the past three weeks.
Honestly, this has been a lesson learned.
Good luck!
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Permalink Reply by TaurusGeminiMoon on
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I realize my response might have sounded harsh. Apologies, I'm healing a very fresh broken heart from a 6 month committed relationship with someone who I trusted. He's MIA. Took a new job traveling and he has completely blown me off. I was actually worried at one point and then got a very short reply to an email saying he is okay just busy. After a six month exclusive relationship? Totally insensitive and inconsiderate.
Take care of your heart and put yourself first. You deserve a man who will take your feelings into consideration. We all deserve partners like that. : )
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Permalink Reply by ~Sweet~ on
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Hey I totally understand and am in the same boat as you it seems. They are cold no doubt about it...I mean Taureans can be blunt but we are FAR from cold and actually will go to great lengths to save a relationship before we break the bad news! I dunno...oh well...guess we have to go through the phases to heal. I appreciate your advice and trust me...after this craziness...I am top priority. Please take care of yourself as well and don't be surprised if out of nowhere he pops up...let's keep running together :)
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Permalink Reply by ScorpioNights on
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Coming here really helped me after my Aquarian ran away from home, too. And mind you, that was after 5 years of living together. I avoid him like the plague now. Just bad bad news to anyone who has a heart! Remember that though they are often detached, Aquarians still have their ways of manipulating people, and ususally they use "being friends" as a way to wedge their foot in the door.
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Permalink Reply by ~Sweet~ on
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I agree VERY BAD news! I just wish I came in contact with this site or people with past experiences with Aquarians before I became involved. I cried my eyes out last night and probably will tonight because I'm the type that needs to analyze and understand so I can have some closure...but I know I won't be getting that... he can kiss my lower cheeks on "friendship"...I'm a taurean to the core when I say ALL OR NOTHING...
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Permalink Reply by Donna on -
Sweet,
Find yourself a stable like minded quy, try a passionate scorpio your polar opposite. Run for you life from the detached emotionally aquarius. They are to unpreditable for the solid stable Taurus.
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Permalink Reply by Donna on
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I thought it was just me the gemini who pushed the aquarius away, this is the most fustraiting relationship I have ever been in. I found a way to deal with my aquarius, I treat him exactly as he treats me. This is a guy who a women can have another whole life going on and the aquarius would never know. That's how detached and uninvolved an aquarius can be. He calls me his girlfriend, I call him my friend because he does not fullfill the requirements of a boyfreind. And I'm not bashing. They make better freinds, because after the initial euphoria of new love wears off the aquarius has no clue on how to perform as a lover. There is no right or wrong. It just is! Thats how I put it in perspective. I have my own life seperate from his and he has his own life seperate from me and thats his doing. One day I will meet the right man who has no problem being involved and is not detached and my aquarius friend will be SOL! Anyone dealing with an aquarius should keep it very light, act like you have more important things to do and keep your options open. Cause this is the man who will go out for cigarettes after 20 years of marriage and decide never to come back. Did he forget his way home? Or just decide one day that he was no longer in love?
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Permalink Reply by Donna on
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Keep in mind Aquarius is friends with everyone, they even call there enemy freind. And yes they are very manipulating people. Walking Contradictions
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Permalink Reply by Melanie on -
I don't agree with the fact that aquarians have a way of manipulating people....I think all these judgemental statements against aquarian men are unfair and unfounded....and in any case one is manipulated only if one allows oneself to be manipulated.
Aquarian men are just different, they are anything BUT typical.....and when they do run away, it is because their needs are not being met!
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